My Story

I still remember crying in despair at the age of four in my first and last acting class. My parents signed me up because they thought I was too shy, too quiet, and spending too much time playing alone.

In school, I was a top student. I didn't ask questions, didn't raise my hand to answer questions, didn't talk in class with friends. Don't take me wrong, I had a couple of very close friends, and I listened a lot, they talked a lot.

Normally, top students get to be on the class committee. For years, I was the only good student without any special role in class. I do notice the difference in how the teachers treated me versus other out-spoken good students, but I had no desire to be a committee member. I used to panic when I have to talk to people. I preferred animals a lot more than humans.

Fast forward 25 years, sometimes I still prefer animals over humans (oops). I guess some things are hard to change. But the me 25 years ago wouldn't believe that I am now a coach and trainer. Engaging with people is both my passion and my way of making a living. I am creating a meaningful life by helping more introverts move towards a fuller expression of who they are.

I am still soft-spoken. I still enjoy time alone. I still listen more than I speak. And I have learned that that's exactly my super power as a leader. At the same time, I know how to tap into my extrovert part when the situation calls for it - after all, we are all ambiverts with certain preferences. With enough awareness and lots of practice, we can expand our expression in life through fuller access to all of who we are.

There were many milestones in my own transformative journey as an introvert. Learning to say no. Learning to prioritise my needs. Learning to speak my truth. Learning to take actions before I feel I am fully ready. Learning to express my feelings and emotions verbally. Learning to accept and love who I am and see my contributions clearly...

Now, I am living in Singapore with my lovely husband, 2 beautiful black cats, 2 chatty parrots, and 1 loving & playful dog. Sometimes I jokingly say that I am a full-time zookeeper, part-time coach/facilitator. I am continuing my journey as an awakening introvert leader, building a life that honours my values and creates meanings from a place of who I am.